I've been thinking about this comment off and on since you left it. I think one thing that is a particular barrier for me is that I am (or at least have been) heavily habituated to avoid asking people for help directly. So that really stops me from asking what is wrong in the non-rhetorical sense, because getting that answer leaves me in the same place as staring at an overwhelming task like cleaning my house or whatever: it's just looking at the insurmountable problem and getting discouraged, rather than feeling closer to solving it, because I am accustomed to recoiling at the idea of asking someone to help me when I feel vulnerable (with weird carve outs for things where it feels "okay" to ask for help). Obviously I am getting better at not just ignoring/avoiding when that's the case, but I think for me, on some level, it doesn't so much seem non-obvious as it leads to the zone of intense discomfort, and I'm at least subconsciously aware of that, so it's almost like, conspicuously avoiding?